Want to be my boyfriend in waiting?
The life I lead is never boring. When I have a tall, dark and handsome man declaring his 
desire to date me, it’s still fraught with silly complications. Like 15+ hours of flights to go on a follow up date to the 10 day Australian whirlwind that occurred in September. Minor detail. The second part to the flight situation is finding a weekend that is free for taking such time off – between now and Christmas it feels like there are events every weekend, which is pretty typical for my life in general, these plans are a little more concrete in that some of them involve planes and a little place called NZ.
What I’m getting at is in the absence of a full time boyfriend/man friend/etc in my day to day existence, I have been busy making other plans. Which may or may not have contributed to my being a singleton- who can say? I happened to crash a girlfriends 5th date with a man she has a strong lusting for a couple of weeks ago. We got to talking about scary movies and how some are simply reserved to be watched when a mans shoulder is available for hiding behind. There is a reason it’s a classic move. It works. His response was something along the lines of ‘toughen up’ or ‘grow some balls’ (which would add an interesting twist to their love tryst- each to their own!). My reply was along the lines of “listen, we have managed to get ourselves here in one piece. We are financially independent, intelligent women, who don’t really rely on men for much- the least you can do is offer up a shoulder during a scary movie!” For the love of all things scary, let a girl hide every now and again (prime opportunity for you to display your impeccable taste in smell selection – cologne and pheromones, it’s a thing).
The point is, in the absence of all the ‘manliness’ in our lives (on a consistent and domestic basis) – we get shit done. More so, we gear our lives to be full of things that are happy and joyful. Speaking on behalf of my girlfriends and myself, we want you guys to be in our lives . It may take some adjusting as we have pretty full schedules and have to get used to having you do things – we will make it work, that’s how we roll.
Back to my life. I have never spent so much time on the phone in my adult life. The nice part is that we had forgotten how funny each other is, FaceTime facilitates this as we create our own daily habits across the time difference. He gets the ‘I’m just waking up’ look during his lunch, I get the ‘I’m about to go to bed’ look at afternoon tea. There are, of course, the inherent issues with having your perspectives and conversational abilities not match due to the time of day along with both being tactile people on opposite continents. It can really highlight conversation styles of each person and what is really important to them.
I have discovered I’m incredibly impatient whilst being solution orientated (and turns out I’m a proactive kinda gal), and I struggle with being in a holding pattern. The whole ‘compromise’ thing I understand, totally get it. In fact, I’d say I’m pretty easy going generally. I can see things from both sides, I at least attempt to understand the alternate point of view – whether or not I agree with it is another thing. Having disagreements and being told no to my suggested plans of seeing each other is a difficult pill to swallow sometimes. I do understand the opposite opinion – it’s expensive and there is a long term prospect to work towards, rather than short term and immediate (via 15 hours) gratification. I do forget that I’m not a billionaire with unlimited funds on occasion. I have managed to live a life where I’m pretty resourceful, and I can usually find a way to make things work when needed. I’m not used to having a second person involved that I need to justify costs with.
I am learning; I am compromising. Rather than spending silly amounts of money on flights to Canada for a brief stint, we can meet up and go on holiday together for 5 days in Queenstown. Then it will be about six more weeks until Christmas. Then it’s will be 2017 and who knows what that will look like?!?!
Baited breath.
Happy Wandering!
Hx