The beauty of always looking upon the bright side is that while I can grieve the loss of a friend and conclusion of much loved relationship, I also can see what is possible moving forward.  This is not an ‘always be positive’ thing, far from it.  I like to play the game of life in a manner where loving hard and being ‘all in’ is how I roll.  I am not adverse to emotion, I do try to get my ugly cries out in the shower, I do attempt to be an adult in any highly charged emotional conversation.  Even to the point of leaving it to come back to…

There are lots of things that are scary.  One of those scary things is being single, one of the other things is the possibility of everything known changing into the unknown.  There is a man whom I have loved, in a number of different capacities, for seven years flying to spend time with me in a week.  It’s a form of love that has shifted and shaped itself into many spaces and places over time, constantly in the flow of circumstance. I am both incredibly excited and shitting myself. Deep breaths – I’m an adult and I can totally handle this (I will conveniently forget that most of the time…

You know what is sexy? Listening. Listening, closely followed by the ability to be accountable. You know those people who you can hang out with and they ‘get you’, you feel heard, you know exactly where you stand with them, and you know that if they say they will do something or be somewhere – they will. Or they’ll keep you in the loop if life gets in the way of set plans. In a world that is short on soft skills, these two things can set you apart from the crowd. Imagine being around people who are transparent and active in what is happening. I hold my time and the…