Relationships – Happy Wandering

July 20, 2019

Stubborn Love

Everyday is a learning day. Days spent in your company feels like learning how to manage myself in an emotional manner where I can continue to be balanced. Or at least make it out of your presence to let all the crazy seep out of my pores. Talking about freedom in life, in relationships, in the way you see the world. It leaves me at a loss for words. I feel like I’m stuck in a Jane Austin novel, responding to societal cues rather than USING MY WORDS. The words don’t come in the moment, I am paralysed by my own inability to formulate what it is I’m feeling into…

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November 1, 2017

Guidance & Listening

The weekend past was full of adventure and uncovering new places and spaces. I am a huge fan of spontaneity and when I get asked to come play on the Australian coastline, who am I to refuse? Being based in Brisbane, accessing the coast comes with an hour or more of travel which leaves lots of room for personal refection. This driving time was full of questions, many of which I have yet to resolve. Since returning home from Maui and running the marathon that I’ve been planning and discussing for most of 2017, it feels like I’m back at the bottom of the roller coaster. There was a peak,…

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October 4, 2017

Sparks & Embers

Oh life. It throws you a curve ball every now and again to check you’re still focused on playing the game. At work the other evening, doing my ‘Facilitator of Fun’ role, we had a fire alarm go off. That was a bit of a signal that this was going to be a different kind of night! The electrician who came by to sort out our situation was beautiful, weaving a new level of enjoyment into my work evening (on top of all the beautiful people already in the gym – for the record). I have a natural level of flirt that is imbedded in my personality, a this was…

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September 5, 2017

IRL

The lay of the land in the dating world is one filled with interesting twists and turns. It’s a constant learning process. I have been on enough coffee meet ups to nail any job interview I undergo ever again. How to be calm when you’re excited; how to remain composed when you can see how much fun you’re going to have within this role; how to be construct sentences when you’re nervous system is sparking all over the place; how to close out an interview when you can see you’re not suited for the position. The background work is pretty robust. It’s come to light that the part that gets…

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March 27, 2017

The ‘Darcy’ conundrum

“We need more gentleman in our lives.” This comment came whilst discussing the ending to a book a girlfriend and I had both recently read. Granted, 1921 was a different time, yet the thought of ‘gentleman’ draws women back to reading books like this and continually re-watching the BBC version of Pride and Prejudice (Colin Firth is a big part of my early teen memories, Mum would happily stare at him or Matt Damon all day – the lady’s got taste). Whilst I’m not a huge fan of the lack of communication that comes with the era, I am a big fan of the chivalry. This point seems to be…

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March 21, 2017

Flawed

People are just so fallible. I came face to face with gut wrenching disappointment after someone fell from the pedestal I had placed them upon. It was the combination of realising that they were human and flawed, as we all are, alongside the understanding that I had held them there completely of my own volition without their consent or knowledge. How dare they disappointment me in a manner that goes against the grain of how I’ve painted them! Them, simply living their life in the manner they see fit, unaware of the platform I’ve placed them on. The hardest pill to swallow is the one that is pointed out to…

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February 21, 2017

Palpable Shift

It’s a point of contention, a gripe you may say. I am a person – one who is chock full of feelings, thoughts, emotions, and ideas. I am a single gal who has previously taken a proactive approach to the dating scene. In life I am the type of person who has a friendly face that you’d ask directions from if you’re lost. My friends have said I’m warm and approachable, somewhere between ‘Alex the Lion’ and a Golden Retriever. I like people; I like to give them the benefit of the doubt far more often than they typically deserve. This is mostly due to the security I have in…

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January 22, 2017

Dating in a fast paced manner

Last week I tried something I’ve never, ever done before. Speed dating. It was terrifyingly awesome! I spent the afternoon mentally revising all the ways I felt kinda gross and listing the reasons I didn’t want to meet any new people. One shower, my favourite dress, eye liner, and a pair of golden flats (being amazonian, it was a team decision to avoid additional height with heels), I left the house feeling a little more upbeat about 20 or so strangers. I am pretty good with meeting new people. I’m not sure why I was nervous. It’s the unknown, ‘will they like me?’ ‘what will they think of me?’ ‘Baaaaaaahhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaa!!’…

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November 7, 2016

….Parents.

I had a realisation the other day. I want to be friends with my Mum. I have spent the last 12 months fighting with my Mum about her health. As someone who has worked within the vague realm of medical appointments, being proactive and understanding the process is where I was coming from. I couldn’t quite reconcile that my Mother was the patient. The ability to explain things would come across as quite blunt, cold even. As much as I wanted to help and to a certain level, protect her, being bossy is my coping mechanism. I prefer to think of it as being ‘direct’. I have since recruited two…

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November 1, 2016

Game of love

The beauty of always looking upon the bright side is that while I can grieve the loss of a friend and conclusion of much loved relationship, I also can see what is possible moving forward. This is not an ‘always be positive’ thing, far from it. I like to play the game of life in a manner where loving hard and being ‘all in’ is how I roll. I am not adverse to emotion, I do try to get my ugly cries out in the shower, I do attempt to be an adult in any highly charged emotional conversation. Even to the point of leaving it to come back to…

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